Do we get what we deserve?
Ever wondered – do we get what we deserve?
Oh here I go again – thinking…… when will I ever stop…. it’s a bit deep this one 🙂 Do we get what we deserve?
A question I have often mulled over, ‘do we get what we deserve’ in this life?
I think it’s a very difficult one to answer.
Maybe it’s almost impossible and I’ve been pondering this for a long long time.
I’m always asking – why?
Why do these things happen to certain people…. why do some people seem to have all the luck and some quite simply don’t?
On one hand of course we don’t get what we deserve…. (we can’t).
We don’t deserve all those wicked, horrid things that happen to us and our friends & family, of course we don’t.
But my question is, do we get back what we put out there?
Do we pre-empt what we get in our lives by the actions and decisions we take?
I think the answer to that is partly YES.
I try really hard to be kind, to be generous with my time and my cash, to live my life according to my internal morals (I’m no saint obviously).
I’m not a bad egg though.
I try as hard as I can to help wherever possible. I go out of my way to help others, to support, encourage, to have empathy and uplift whoever I can.
I’m honest, straightforward I hope, a tad silly from time to time, but as someone said to me recently ‘basically sound’ (thanks).
But I’ve had my share of bad stuff like most people, but also good stuff I guess…..
So if we believe we are not good at something, be it at a relationship or at work, do we subconsciously choose partners or companies that fit the image we have of ourselves?
i.e partners who simply don’t shape up or do some people decide to ‘just settle’ for something?
For something or someone who (or that) is not quite right?
Should we Settle? Do we get what we deserve?
Very recently I have decided that it is a resounding NO for me (although it’s tempting)
I cannot settle.
I’d rather be alone or without than unhappy with someone or something that isn’t quite right.
So if we have a negative image of ourselves, do we always choose something not good enough for the real us, is our life and life course in our own hands??
Seriously I don’t think we get what we deserve in the main, but I do think we shape maybe what happens to us through our outlooks on life and our choices, especially in social situations.
One of my biggest pieces of advice to anyone if they feel intimidated or not worthy or they think they don’t deserve something is simply to ‘act as if’ or ‘fake it till you make it’ – it works, trust me.
Believe you can do it, do everything in your power to make it happen and more often it WILL happen.
Don’t settle for second best ever…. you simply deserve the best.
People and different approaches…. why?
Another thing I have realised recently is that there are many different sorts of people, those who flounder under crisis/pressure and those who literally are able to ‘mend burst balloons.’
I’m not sure I can mend burst balloons, but what I can do is attack any issue or problem with a set of action plans. No matter the subject.
So why do some people come up trumps and others panic?
It’s odd isn’t it?
When I try to solve anything – I turn to pen & paper!
I am a firm believer in lists (Excel Spreadsheets if I must lol) and plans and being pragmatic and realistic, no matter the issue or problem.
I have also realised that you can only do what you can do, if you’ve done everything in your power then you can hopefully sleep with a clear mind, even if the issue is not solved.
Sometimes it’s about getting on a path
A path to sort it…. and sometimes that’s the hardest step.
Call it karma, payback or just blind luck, some people seem to skate through life with ease, while others struggle endlessly.
So where do you fit?
Do you get what you deserve? Do we get what we deserve?
Something to think about….. or am I talking total mumbo jumbo? Possibly lol….
I’d love to hear what you think – please comment below the post
And if you are wondering where all this started then maybe catch my first ever relationship post Affairs of the Heart
It might all make a tad more sense